How to Introduce Bondage in the Bedroom

Whilst there was once a stigma attached to bondage, it's safe to say that it has evaporated in recent years. With 50 Shades of Grey causing a stir in cinemas across the world, thousands of couples are choosing to try out bondage in the bedroom for the very first time. So if you're thinking of trying S&M after watching the steamy flick, you can be sure that you're not alone! Bondage is kinky and immensely thrilling, however, it can also be soft and extremely sensual. If you're curious and are looking for a new way to enjoy sex with your partner, the world of bondage is well worth exploring.

Gently Does it

Much can be said for the element of surprise. However, it's important not to spring bondage on your partner. The act of being tied up can cause some people to panic and so it's essential that you discuss the subject with your partner. Discussing sex with your partner can be nerve-wracking but it's essential that you talk about each of your desires and limits before you experiment with bondage in the bedroom. To broach the subject gently, try asking him questions such as “How would you feel about playing with a blindfold when we go to bed?” or “Would you mind if I look online for handcuffs and things to use in the bedroom”. You may find that simply discussing the topic will get you both hot and you may even want to begin proceedings then and there!

Invest in your First Bondage Equipment

Once you've talked with your partner about introducing bondage into your relationship, it's time to invest in your first bondage equipment. A good place to start is wrist and ankle restraints and a blindfold. This will enable you to experiment with control and the blindfold will add an element of sensory play. It increases the wearer's sensitivity to touch, taste, smell and even sound. If your partner is the one being blindfolded, start by slowly massaging or kissing their body. The sexual anticipation will drive them insane with desire! There are many bedroom bondage kits for beginners and most contain these basic items. The look of bondage equipment can be somewhat heavy for some people, however, there are several alternatives to leather and buckles on the market. If you don't want to dive straight in with handcuffs and chains then why not try a soft satin version? You'll need to shop around to find bondage equipment that both you and your partner are comfortable with.

Keeping Play Safe

Before you get caught up in your bondage fantasy, you'll need to think about how to keep your bedroom play safe. Whilst bondage is unarguably a thrilling sexual experience, it can also be dangerous if you don't set any ground rules before you begin. If you're both on the same page about what you want and what is acceptable, it's likely to go a lot smoother. It's important to establish consent before you reach for the ropes and shackles and to determine which safe words or signals will be used if there's a problem or if one of you wants play to stop. As long as you establish a level of trust and consent before you begin bondage in the bedroom, there's no reason why it shouldn't be a fun, fulfilling and incredibly exciting sexual experience that you'll both enjoy and want to repeat again and again.