We Understand How You Feel
Starting your pleasure journey can feel vulnerable. Maybe you're wondering if you're "normal," worried about choosing wrong, or simply feeling overwhelmed by options. You're not alone - and there's no wrong way to explore.
Start With Self-Compassion
Your pleasure is valid at any experience level. Our beginner toys are designed to meet you exactly where you are.
No Perfect Choice
There's no "wrong" first toy. Each option in our collection is selected for quality, safety, and ease of use.
We're Here to Help
Our knowledgeable team offers judgement-free support. No question is too basic or too personal.
Find Your Starting Point
Different bodies enjoy different sensations. Explore by category or take our quiz to find your perfect match.
External Stimulation
Perfect for clitoral pleasure. Start with gentle vibrations and discover what feels good.
Internal Pleasure
Gentle G-spot toys designed for comfortable exploration and discovery.
Partner Play
Enhance intimacy together with toys designed for shared exploration.
Versatile Options
Multi-use toys that let you explore different sensations and find your preference.
Find Your Perfect First Toy
Answer a few simple questions to discover the best starting point for your pleasure journey. Takes about 2 minutes.
What type of stimulation interests you most?
Setting Yourself Up for Success
Your first experience with a toy should be pressure-free and comfortable. Here's what actually helps:
Create Your Space
Choose a time when you won't be interrupted. Lock the door, put on music you enjoy, and remember - this is your time to explore without any pressure to perform or achieve anything specific.
Always Use Lubricant
Even if you feel aroused, lubricant makes everything more comfortable and pleasurable. Water-based lube is safe with all toy materials. Apply generously - you can always add more.
Start Outside
Even with internal toys, start with external stimulation. Get familiar with the sensations, the controls, and what feels good before moving to penetration if that's your goal.
Listen to Your Body
If something doesn't feel right, stop. If you're tense, pause and breathe. Your body knows what it needs - learning to listen to it is part of the journey.
Understanding Your Body
Knowledge is power. Understanding your anatomy helps you choose toys that actually work for your body and enhance your experience.
External Pleasure Zones
- •Clitoris: Contains over 8,000 nerve endings - more than any other part of the human body. Most people with vulvas require clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm.
- •Labia: Highly sensitive to touch and pressure. External toys can provide indirect stimulation here.
- •Perineum: The area between the genitals and anus, rich in nerve endings for all genders.
Internal Pleasure Zones
- •G-Spot: Located 2-3 inches inside the vaginal canal on the front wall. Responds well to firm pressure and curved toys.
- •A-Spot: Deeper than the G-spot, can produce intense sensations for some people.
- •Prostate: For people with prostates, located internally and accessible anally. Known as the "P-spot."
Common Myths Debunked
Myth: "Toys will desensitize you."
Truth: This is completely false. Quality toys won't damage nerve endings or reduce sensitivity.
Myth: "Everyone should be able to orgasm from penetration alone."
Truth: Only about 25% of people with vulvas reliably orgasm from penetration without additional clitoral stimulation.
Myth: "You should know exactly what you like right away."
Truth: Sexual preferences develop and change. Exploration is a lifelong journey, not a destination.
Material Guide: What Your Toy Is Made Of Matters
The material affects everything from safety to sensation. Here's what you need to know about body-safe options.
Medical-Grade Silicone
Pros: Non-porous, hypoallergenic, easy to clean, lasts for years, body-safe, can be boiled
Cons: Can be pricier, cannot use with silicone-based lube
Best For: Everyone, especially beginners. The gold standard for intimate toys.
Highly Recommended
ABS Plastic
Pros: Budget-friendly, non-porous, easy to clean, compatible with all lubes, lightweight
Cons: Hard surface (less give than silicone), can feel cold initially
Best For: Budget-conscious shoppers, external vibrators.
Great Option
Glass
Pros: Non-porous, beautiful aesthetic, temperature play, extremely durable, all lubes compatible
Cons: Rigid (no flexibility), breakable if dropped, can be intimidating
Best For: Experienced users, temperature play enthusiasts.
Advanced Choice
Stainless Steel
Pros: Incredibly durable, temperature play, weighty sensation, fully sterilisable
Cons: Heavy, rigid, higher price point, can feel intimidating
Best For: Those seeking firm pressure, temperature play lovers.
Premium Option
Materials to Avoid
- "Jelly" (soft rubber) or PVC: Porous, contains phthalates (potentially harmful chemicals), cannot be fully sterilised
- TPE/TPR (without certification): Often porous, can harbor bacteria, avoid unless specifically labeled as body-safe
Size Matters (But Not How You Think)
Let's address the elephant in the room: bigger is NOT always better, especially for beginners.
Beginner-Friendly Sizes
- Diameter: 0.75" - 1.25"
- Length: 4" - 6" insertable
- Why: Easy to control, less overwhelming, comfortable for most bodies
Average Sizes
- Diameter: 1.25" - 1.5"
- Length: 6" - 7" insertable
- Why: Most common, versatile for different experience levels
Advanced Sizes
- Diameter: 1.5"+
- Length: 7"+
- Why: For experienced users seeking fullness or specific sensations
Why Smaller Can Be Better
1. Easier to position: Smaller toys give you better control and are easier to maneuver for targeted stimulation.
2. Less intimidating: You can relax more, which is crucial for pleasure. Tension is the enemy of enjoyment.
3. Versatile use: Many smaller toys work well for both external and internal stimulation.
4. Partner play friendly: Smaller toys are easier to incorporate with a partner without feeling like too much.
Pro Tip: Focus on Features, Not Size
The best toy isn't the biggest one - it's the one with the right shape, curve, texture, and vibration patterns for YOUR body. A 5" curved vibrator with targeted G-spot stimulation will outperform an 8" straight toy any day.
How to Care for Your Toys
Proper care keeps your toys body-safe, extends their lifespan, and ensures they're always ready when you are.
Cleaning 101
Before & After Every Use:
- 1.Rinse with warm water
- 2.Apply mild, unscented soap or specialised toy cleaner
- 3.Gently scrub all surfaces, paying attention to textured areas
- 4.Rinse thoroughly - soap residue can cause irritation
- 5.Pat dry with a clean, lint-free towel or air dry
Note: For waterproof toys, you can wash under running water. For non-waterproof toys, use a damp cloth avoiding electrical components.
Storage Tips
- •Store separately: Keep toys in individual bags/pouches. Silicone toys touching each other can react and degrade.
- •Cool, dry place: Avoid direct sunlight and extreme temperatures.
- •Remove batteries: If storing long-term, remove batteries to prevent corrosion.
- •Lockable storage: Consider a discreet lockable case if privacy is a concern.
Pro tip: Keep a small bottle of toy cleaner and a storage pouch with your toy for easy post-use cleanup.
Battery Care
- Use quality batteries from known brands
- Remove batteries if not using for 2+ weeks
- Replace all batteries at once (don't mix old and new)
Charging Best Practices
- Charge fully before first use
- Don't leave plugged in for days after full charge
- Recharge every 2-3 months even if unused
When to Replace
- Discoloration or strange odours
- Tears, cracks, or material degradation
- Motor weakens significantly
- Cannot get fully clean
Solo vs. Partner Play
Toys enhance both solo and partnered experiences in different ways. Both are valuable and normal.
Solo Play Benefits
- •Self-discovery: Learn what you like at your own pace without performance pressure.
- •Stress relief: Orgasms release endorphins and can improve sleep and mood.
- •Body confidence: Understanding your pleasure builds confidence that translates to partnered sex.
- •No schedule conflicts: Pleasure on your timeline, whenever you want it.
Partner Play Benefits
- •Enhances intimacy: Exploring together builds trust and communication.
- •Reduces pressure: Toys can help when arousal levels don't match or physical limitations exist.
- •New experiences: Adds variety and excitement to your intimate life.
- •Mutual pleasure: Some toys provide stimulation for both partners simultaneously.
Introducing Toys to a Partner
Start with conversation: "I've been curious about trying something new together" is better than surprising them mid-act.
Frame it as addition, not replacement: "I'd love to explore this together" rather than "I need this because..."
Start small: A small external vibrator is less intimidating than a complex toy. Let them ease in.
Make it mutual: Ask what they might be curious about too. This is about joint exploration.
Let them control it: Handing over the controls can make partners feel included rather than replaced.
Next Steps: Beyond Your First Toy
Once you're comfortable with the basics, here's how to thoughtfully expand your collection.
Level 1: You've Mastered the Basics
You're comfortable with your first toy and know what sensations you enjoy. Consider:
- Exploring a different type of stimulation (if you started with external, try internal, or vice versa)
- Upgrading to a rechargeable version of your favourite type
- Trying a toy with more features (patterns, dual stimulation)
Level 2: Ready to Experiment
You have 2-3 toys and a good sense of your preferences. Branch out with:
- Rabbit vibrators for dual stimulation
- Pressure-wave toys for a totally different sensation
- Anal toys (with proper research and preparation)
- Remote-controlled or app-enabled toys for solo or partner play
Level 3: Experienced Explorer
You know your body well and want specialised experiences:
- Luxury toys with specific features you've identified you love
- Specialised shapes for targeted stimulation (curved G-spot, curved P-spot)
- Temperature play with glass or steel
- Advanced features like thrusting or rotating mechanisms
Remember: Quality Over Quantity
You don't need a drawer full of toys. Many people have 2-3 favourites they return to again and again. It's better to invest in fewer quality toys that truly work for you than accumulate a collection of "meh" experiences. Take your time, listen to your body, and enjoy the journey.